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The Independent on Sunday says Me Before You is ‘A novel that demands an afternoon on the sofa with a fistful of tissues.’ Well thanks to a bad cold that’s exactly how I came to find myself reading it, only instead of a fistful of tissues it was a whole Andrex toilet roll. Classy I know. And unfortunately for my now very sore nose, it wasn’t the quilted type!

Lou Clark is 26 and lives at home in a four bed semi with her working class parents, her granddad, younger sister Treena and her five year old nephew Thomas. She’s been going out with her fitness fanatic boyfriend Patrick for five years and enjoys working in the local café The Buttered Bun. She knows how many steps, 158 to be exact, there are between the bus stop and home. Her life is simple, dull but simple.

Out of the blue Lou is made redundant from the café where she works and, as money is tight and her dad is constantly under threat of being made redundant, she’s forced to take a temporary job for a maximum of six months as a carer to a young male quadriplegic. Once confirmed there’s no bottom wiping involved Lou reluctantly agrees to take it.

Before the accident, Will Traynor was a high flier in the city but now he’s confined to a wheelchair and requires twenty-four-hour care, mostly by trained nurse Nathan. Lou has been hired to mainly keep him company and help him with food and drink and generally see he comes to no harm.

Will is trapped in a wheelchair unable to enjoy the full and energetic life he had before the accident nearly two years ago. Lou is also trapped. Living at home with her wonderful but slightly mad family, she’s the butt of everyone’s jokes and forever in the shadow of her younger more intelligent sister. She occasionally escapes to The Kings Head with boyfriend Patrick for the Hailsbury Triathlon Terrors meetings where they all sip mineral water or check the sweetener ratios of their Diet Cokes while discussing their latest running times. Personally I’d have spiked Patrick’s high energy drink with laxatives to help him along the way to achieving a new personal best!

Will is upper class and ignores Lou most of the time or when he does acknowledge her he’s rude and obnoxious. As the job is slightly more appealing than working in the chicken processing factory and the family need her wages, Lou decides to make the best of a bad situation and stick it out for the six months.

Until that is, she overhears Will’s mother Camilla and sister Georgina arguing about his plans for the future. In less than six months time Will has an appointment booked with Dignitas, a Swiss assisted-dying group that helps those with terminal illness and severe physical and mental illnesses to die, assisted by qualified doctors and nurses.

Horrified to find out the real reason why her job is only temporary Lou leaves. But after being persuaded by Camilla to return and try and convince Will that his life is worth living she returns with a plan.

My favourite scene was when Will comes to the house to share in Lou’s birthday celebrations.
The relationship between the various family members in this scene is both poignant and witty and the tension between Patrick and Will is portrayed beautifully by Moyes.

Me Before You is a book that made me laugh out loud one minute and shed a tear the next. It’s a thought provoking book that will make you think, what you would do if it were your son, daughter, husband or wife.

Oh and please don’t be put off by the God awful cover. I’d never normally look twice at a book that cries out Chicklit but after watching the author (who I follow on Twitter) being interviewed by the doyens of the book world, Richard and Judy, it sounded interesting and I thought I’d give it a go. And I’m glad I did.

Me Before You is the first book by Jojo Moyes I’ve read. It won’t be the last.

Silent Sunday

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Silent Sunday.

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Silent Sunday.

Love is… like an onion

A poem by Carol Ann Duffy sums up what LOVE is … it’s not the red roses, the scribbled love notes or other such sentiments but something much more simple.

Valentine
Not a red rose or a satin heart.

I give you an onion.
It is a moon wrapped in brown paper.
It promises light
like the careful undressing of love.

Here.
It will blind you with tears
like a lover.
It will make your reflection
a wobbling photo of grief.

I am trying to be truthful.

Not a cute card or a kissogram.

I give you an onion.
Its fierce kiss will stay on your lips,
possessive and faithful
as we are,
for as long as we are.

Take it.
Its platinum loops shrink to a wedding-ring,
if you like.

Lethal.
Its scent will cling to your fingers,
cling to your knife.

Love is … still going strong 25 years on. Something I am immensely proud of.

This the last Gallery prompt from Sticky Fingers for 2010. Before you pop over to see how others have interpreted the Love is theme let me wish you all a happy Christmas and hope 2011 is filled with LOVE, HEALTH & HAPPINESS. xx

Home for Christmas

Twelve years ago today, I sat by a hospital bed, holding my mum’s hand, as my dad passed away. I use the term ‘passed away’ because that’s exactly what he did. He had been unconscious for three days and with his family watching and waiting, he took his last breath and left us.

Dad hadn’t been well for some months, like many men of his age (82) he had problems with his ‘plumbing’ (quite ironic after the week I’ve just had).

For the last few years or so, every six months dad went into hospital for an overnight stay to have his pipes unblocked. He was waiting for his usual hospital appointment to come through. The doctors kept fobbing him off and telling him to be patient.

The appointment he had been waiting for never came.

Mum phoned me on the Saturday to say dad had finally been taken in to hospital. For the last few weeks, she had been trying to get him to create a fuss with the doctors to bring his appointment forward, as it was now well overdue. But that wasn’t his style he would sit it out and wait. I asked mum if she wanted me to get come home and visit him. She said there was no need, now he’s in hospital they’ll do what they need to do and he’ll be back home in plenty of time for Christmas!

Sunday night the call came to say it was too late. The doctors couldn’t do anything more for him. If he had gone in sooner they could have fixed it. Basically, the waste he hadn’t been able to get rid of had slowly poisoned him.

I caught the next train up to Manchester and went straight to the hospital to be with mum. Yes it was my dad who was dying but it was mum I wanted to hold.

Dad was 49 when I came along, an unexpected fifth child, not the menopause after all!

He was a strict Roman Catholic who went to church every Sunday, with his family. We had no choice. Eventually, in my late teens, I plucked up the courage to say that I wasn’t going to spend another Sunday sitting in a cold church listening to rubbish. I waited for lightning to strike. It didn’t.

Dad’s parents were strict Catholics and so religion had always been an important part of his life. Often more important than his family. I can’t remember a time when he didn’t go to church. When he retired, aged 65, he went daily. I think this was to give some kind of structure to his day but, we joked that it was to ensure he got the best seat in the house, when the time came.

Everyday, as long as I can remember, dad wore a shirt and tie, even at weekends and holidays. I can recall a family day out to Blackpool with him sat on the beach, shirt and tie tightly fastened and a flat cap to stop him burning his head.

In his youth, he was tall and slim and I’m told a bit of a ‘looker’. He met mum when they were both in the army, serving King and country. They married in December 1945 and were together for 53 years. A lifetime.

Dad smoked since being a teenager. He would easily get through 60 Senior Service, a day. His fingers were the colour of English mustard.

To me, dad was this person who sat in the other room reading the Daily Express or Manchester Evening News, puffing away, while the rest of the family, well, were being a family.

Every night his dinner was ready for him as he walked in the door, even though my mum also worked. I presume this was how life had been for his father too.

He taught both my brother and I to swim and had us reciting our times tables every night before going to bed. He would get so frustrated with the fact that we both didn’t ‘get’ maths. But most Friday’s he would present us with a bag of sweets from the newsagents where he bought his daily paper. We looked forward to Fridays. When I smell the scent of parma violets or chew on a drumsrick lolly, I’m 10 again.

Dad never raised his hands to me, or any of us as far as I’m aware. But he also never wrapped them around me. I never heard him swear and he very rarely raised his voice. Although he went out for a drink every night, I never saw him drunk, I also never saw him let his hair down or have fun. He was from the old school of fatherhood. He provided for us. He wasn’t a coldhearted man, he just found it incredibly difficult to express his feelings. I know he loved us in his own way.

The last time I saw him was the October before he died. We were visiting in the half term holidays because my mum’s birthday is in November and so it was an early birthday/Christmas visit. I noticed he was quieter and less cantankerous than usual.

By now, dad had given up smoking. After years of living in a pea soup fog, at the ripe old age of 70, he gave up the fags. One day he was sucking in 60 a day, the next none. An unopened packet sat on the windowsill for months after, until finally mum threw them away. This couldn’t have been easy for him. Years after I remember him saying he could ‘murder for a cigarette.’

For the next 12 years, with money to spare, mum and dad enjoyed many holidays in the UK and abroad together. They always returned behaving like two young lovebirds. It was very short lived, dad was a jealous man and didn’t like to share mum, even with his children. They’d very soon be back to bickering.

Although quite a chunk of this money was spent on holidays, dad also replaced his high tar addiction with sweets, chocolate and cakes. His particular favourite being Turkish Delight, something we bought him every Christmas. His waistline now resembled Colonel Mustard!

Too late to worry about his teeth decaying, for every day of the 21 years I lived at home his pearly whites had glared at me, from a glass, when I brushed my own teeth. In fact, dad’s teeth played a cameo role on my wedding day.

It was once again his turn to walk a daughter down the aisle. He had mastered the art of this, after playing the part so well three times already. Only with his final daughter leaving the nest he was finally regaining a bathroom. And, it was the last time he would have to play this role. Or so he thought. In fact he went on to give his most moving performance years later. Just when you thought you had the old man sussed he threw up a surprise or two.

My sister’s youngest daughter got married a few years after her beloved dad tragically died, aged 49, of cancer. Her rather rotund granddad, now known by some as Big Frank, donned his tails and stepped into Kevin’s shoes to proudly walk ‘Ragga’ (Helen) down the aisle to her young marine waiting.

The speech he gave at their wedding breakfast was entertaining and yet incredibly moving. One minute the room was in howls of laughter, the next not a dry eye in the house. Some mean feat when you consider the majority of the guests were big strapping Royal Marines. He did Kevin proud.

The speech he gave at my wedding, nearly 25 years ago, was entertaining too but for quite different reasons. As it was a special occasion dad decided to wear his spare set of teeth. We soon realised why they hadn’t been seen, or heard, before. They were a little too tight and whistled when he spoke. So he kept the speech short and tweet!

I’m never really sure whether dad was upset or annoyed that I chose to abandon the Catholic Church and take my vows in the opposition’s. He never said. And that was the problem with dad, I never really knew what he was thinking.

And so, Wednesday 16 December 1998, when the time came, I held my mum’s hand as we repeated the Rosary 12 times. For me, it was parrot fashion, it meant nothing. But if it gave mum comfort then it was the least I could do. The man she had spent the last 52 years with had just left her unexpectedly.

It was surreal to see displayed at home wedding anniversary, Christmas and sympathy cards. The funeral was arranged for 23 December.

Big Frank would be home for Christmas.

This post was written for the Writing Workshop – Remembering over at Sleep is for the Weak. It doesn’t really fit any of the prompts but to read some that do click here.

Silent Sunday

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Silent Sunday

Today Twigman and I spent several heavenly hours in our favourite store.

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